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Detaching in Relationships: When we first hear about the concept of detachment, many of us find it objectionable and questionable. We may think that detaching means we don’t care. We may believe that by controlling, worrying and trying to force things to happen, we’re showing how much we care. We may believe that controlling, worrying…

To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can’t do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it’s the realisation I can’t control another. To let go is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences. To let go is to admit powerlessness,…

If we give careful thought and planning toward the conversation, we may avoid ‘throwing fuel on the fire’ and achieve open and honest communication. The following framework can be helpful in planning your approach to a sensitive or difficult conversation. P.I.U.S Statements P – Positive. Begin with a positive approach, perhaps an indication of how…

1. Catch Him at his Best. Reward pleasant, non-drinking, drug-free behaviour. Use positive acknowledgment – make the good times great! 2. Withdraw when He’s Using or Been Using. Take yourself away to enjoy something pleasant on your own or with a friend. Do not engage in battle. Let him experience your absence when he chooses…

Boundaries Require: Self-awareness Self-love Honest communication Saying the hard stuff Aligning with, or stepping into our power   Having Good Boundaries with People Includes: Respecting their rights, privacy and personal business Asking – not expecting, demanding, assuming or insisting Doing what we say we will, and saying when plans change Asking if it’s a good…

Out of love and fear, we do all sorts of things to protect our addicts. Most of the things we do, however, actually help the addiction. As a result, the addiction flourishes and our loved ones get sicker. This is called enabling. Following is a list of some of the things we do which enable…